As I sometimes say, “There can be no such thing as a ‘victim;’ you can only be a ‘victim’ of yourself.” Remember:
Controlling your emotions can be empowering
Your inner self is what you make it.
Refuse to want to fear, and you start acquiring a constancy of character that makes it impossible for another to do you wrong.
Somebody asked Epictetus: “What is the fruit of these doctrines?” He answered with three sharp words: “Tranquility, Fearlessness, and Freedom.”
–VADM James B. Stockdale, USN (Retired) in “The Stoic Warrior’s Triad: Tranquility, Fearlessness and Freedom”